Sometimes when you think you are doing the right thing, you find yourself being completely wrong. There’s an old saying, I heard it in some movie once, that “if you love something set it free. If it comes back to you then it was meant to be.” I put this theory to the test last week, by trying to give my dog Chester what I thought he needed. A family with another dog and people who would give him undivided attention. As it turns out, he already had want he wanted and isn’t going taking any less.
About an hour after I left Chester at his new home he ran away. That should have been my first clue. I got a frantic phone call from his hopeful new owner telling me this and asking for help. She, to her credit went through a lot of trouble to find him and at 12:30 am finally retrieved him. I felt horrible, both for her and Chester, but I resigned myself to give her the benefit of the doubt as she seemed genuinely set on giving him a good home. Perhaps Chester just need time to adjust. I spent the entire week miserable and using every ounce of inner strength not to go and get him, believing with each passing day that this what was best. As it turns out, Chester had other ideas. Two days ago I got another call from the lady telling me to come get Chester because he wasn’t eating or going to the bathroom and couldn’t stop shaking. Again I felt horrible. So now Chester is happily back where he has undoubtedly chosen to be, with us.
I can’t say I’m disappointed as I missed him terribly. My husband on the other had…..but i think he is also glad deep down. If I’ve learned anything from this, it’s that you just never know. You can’t go through life second guessing every decision, but your intentions may lead you down a path you never intended to take. Our choices bring us to the places we stop at in life. Good or bad they determine how we experience the world around us. And as Chester demonstrated, sometimes other people’s decisions bring us to places we don’t choose to be. This can make us very unhappy. So whether your choices bring you to good or bad, own them, because it is better to make them for yourself, than have someone else make the wrong ones for you!